Thursday 12/11/2008 5:58:07pm Name: William North IV Homepage: E-Mail: wnorthiv@gmail.com Referred By: Just Surfed In City/Country: Washington, DC Comments: Hey Tonbara, I have been thinking about you a lot lately. I wanted to let you know that I am finishing up my fall semester at Howard. I have one more final before I can return to Texas for the holidays. I am preparing to graduate in the spring. As I prepare to move forward with my life I start thinking about yours. You were a great friend with a bright future who passed at such an early age. It seems like things have changed so much since then. I was a kid and I am now a 21 year old man but your passing is still fresh in my mind. I remember the day you passed like it was yesterday. It just seemed so sudden and unfair. However, as a Christian I know you are in Heaven and I will see you again one day. When you passed I knew the best way to honor you would be to move forward in my life and strive for success. I swore that I would rededicate myself to the pursuit of excellence. I know that you have been watching over me as I take these last exams. I have one more. I am going to make you proud! As time marches on and many of us grow up and apart, I want you to know that I will never forget you or the impact you had on my life. You are a young man who will continue to live on in all the lives you touched.

Wednesday 12/10/2008 9:51:40am Name: Mom Homepage: E-Mail: Referred By: Just Surfed In City/Country: Missouri City/USA Comments: My TeeJayKay, It is exactly six years today since you were snatched away from my tight grip. I held you children so tight that I never imagined any harm could come to you as long as I have my breath. It still feels strange not to have you around. We still mistakenly call "Tonbara" when we meant to call someone else. Someone, who most recently lost a loved one, asked me if it ever gets better. I told her that it never gets easier. We only learn to adjust to a new normal, a normal of one-way communication with our loved one. We can never hear your voice, your laughter or your funny stories again on this side of earth. I think the world missed out on a great guy right there! I love you so much sometimes it feels tangible. I trust the Lord knew exactly what He was doing when He allowed to be taken away from me. I also trust that He knows how to get me through this. It still hurts to think of you not being around but I'm depending on God to get me through each day. Some days are easier than others. What hurts most is seeing other young men and wondering how my TJ would have been at their age. I would never know that, would I? I want to scream "Not fair, Not fair!" At whom? God is not unjust. He had His reason which would sound perfect. IN ETERNITY!. Meanwhile I am only required to trust His Sovereignty. Today, we go to place flowers at your graveside. This seems to be the only thing we could do for you now. Even that is not for your benefit, for you are not there. It is for our benefit. This was where we last saw the body you lived in when you were with us and we want to keep that link as long as we can. You are blessed to be seeing the Lord's face. I'm not sure you get sad when you think of us but the Bible says that you "eagerly await." We shall meet again, son. Adieu, my son, my first-born son, Tonbara Joshua Tonye Komonibo. Your Mom

Wednesday 07/09/2008 12:29:02am Name: Dee Homepage: E-Mail: noelledd@yahoo.com Referred By: Just Surfed In City/Country: Missouri City Comments: Hey Bro... It's been way too long again. A lot have happened these past few months and again, I find myself wishing you were here. I had a total of five dreams about you--I wish they were consecutive. I miss you so much that after I wake up, I want to go back to sleep and re-dream you again. I wonder to myself what I'd do if God gave us a second chance to talk to you, to wave to you, to smile at you, to hug you. What would I do? I don't think just a few minutes would be enough... I miss having you as my brother, my friend. Even though I didn't say it as often as I should've, dearest Tonbara, I love you. I can't wait to see you someday--I hope you won't mind the smothering, because I don't think I'd ever let you go again... Loving you always, Your sister Dee.

Tuesday 12/11/2007 3:01:31am Name: Mom Homepage: E-Mail: Referred By: Just Surfed In City/Country: Comments: Comments: TeejayKay, My Teejay baby! 5 years and it still feels like yesterday. I thought that they said "time flies when you are having fun." This sad time is sure flying too fast. Yesterday, as we were returning from the cemetry, I thought aloud: "Today we are saying '5 years ago', in 30 years, we'd be saying "35 years ago" and how would that feel better? I would be an eighty something year old woman who had lived without her first-born son for 35 years! That stated a new wave of crying for us. Tonbara, it doesn't seem to get any better. The longer you're gone, the worse if feels and the more I miss and long for you! I created a Christmas bouquet for you yesterday. I experienced a strange elation as I was shopping for the materials to use. Once again, I was doing something for my Tonbara. As we waited for your Dad to return from work I assembled the flowers, a symphony of Christmas trimmings - reminiscent of our gatherings on Christmas morning by the Christmas tree. I remember one of the last Christmases we had together. The gifts were all under the tree, you and Gesiye had slept downstairs so as to be close to the gifts. When the rest of us woke up and came downstairs, you were ready to rip off the wrappings around your gifts but Dad said "wait, let's read the Christmas story and pray first." It was almost an hour later before you could open the gifts. You guys talked about that all year but acknowledged the lesson learned that day. The greatest gift of all was the Child born that day just to die for mankind. Throughout 2002, you jokingly told Dad to shorten the "sermon" on Christmas morning. Sad to tell you, Teejay, that 2001 was the last Christmas we had so joyously celebrated. Gathering to open gifts, is no longer what we looked forward to. One year we tried to do it but as I came downstairs, I instinctly expected to see two boys sprawled on the living room couches, keeping guard over the Christmas tree. BUT the room was cold, no one was downstairs. Gesiye was sleeping alone in his room upstairs. I sighed and went back upstairs. "Not fair" I screamed at no one in particular. I miss you, son. How did this happen to us? We were such a close-knit family. It was always "Mina and her battalion!" My children were my world. I wanted nothing else as long as i had my 5 children with me. Driving you guys to celebration station, mall, bowling, soccer, etc were my happiest moments. All that has changed. We hardly do those things now. I know you would have been 20 years old this Christmas. You would not have been sleeping by the Chistmas tree but you would have still been enthusiatic about this wonderful celebration of the birth of our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ. Maybe you still are but this time, you have the real PERSON! How awesome! Son, I do not cry for you anymore! You are in a better place. I cry for those of us left behind. Those of us left to go through life's journey without you! You sure made the journey easier and happier! You were always watching out for me. I remember many times you'd ask how I was feeling and would say, "Mom, go and sit down, watch something on tv or just rest and I would do this or that for you." I was thinking then how much you'd take care of me in my old age. Gesiye is doing almost the same things- looking out for me like you used to. It is eerie sometimes how he looks and acts like you. I feel sadder for him though cos he seems to have lost much - his only big brother. Yesterday he cried so much at the cemetry that I was worried. But the Lord would take care of all of us. I bet Dec 10 is also a celebration for you in Heaven. It is the anniversary of your entrance into your eternity. If entrance into this sinful world is so commemorated, how much more entrance into heavenly bliss! The difference is that while we remember the day with sorrow, you remember it with joy and gratitude. In a way we should be happy for you. You are not cheated out of life. We are the ones cheated. I love you son! I miss you more today than I'd been before. Maybe it is beccause I saw your friend Stoney and heard all the good things the Lord is doing in the lives of all your friends. They are all walking with the Lord. Praise be to our Lord, Jesus Christ, who used your death to ignite His flame in the lives of several young men. Ok, now I can go back to sleep. Adieu, my beloved son, Tonbara, Joshua, Tonye, Komonibo. I pray the Lord allows you to get a glimpse of my heart right now - it is full of love and longing for my first sin! Any word for Family:

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